@martiboxwell9680
Spent over 20 years in this situation and it was brutal. I felt the coldness but I didn’t know why. Went from intimacy multiple times a day during the love bombing phase to going multiple years without any type of intimacy. I could tell that she was afraid of any type of affection because it might lead to intimacy and we can’t have that. Man was this a tough life lesson. Got my ass whooped.
@Proudcanadian58
After 7 years I finally let go. No affection. Hot and cold. No communication. No intimacy. I told him we were like roommates 😢 I’m healing
@DC-wp8cr
Thank you. You have no idea how confused I've been 25+ years of confusion
@chrisj9700
I was recently blindsided after a 2 year relationship. One of my concerns was lack of physical intimacy. It hurts like hell to feel discarded by someone who used to talk a lot about marriage and buying a house together, but watching this video makes me realise that I actually had a lucky escape.
@ForeverCurious7
Thank you so much. You really help me understand this complex dynamic. You really helped me get over the discard from the dismissive avoidant.
@brianjustbrian7216
Thank you. This video helped me understand so much. I was just discarded after 18 years and this is precisely why. It's been immensely painful but now that I understand I can hopefully move past it more quickly.
@brego12317
Wow. I went through all this. Insanely true.
@Active_With_Ally
Your videos are so good. They describe my husband to an ABSOLUTE T. Please know that your videos are so appreciated, and give so much insight! Thank you for sharing! ❤
@padmeraven7290
Thank you for this video because I only invested 6 months into my relationship before being discarded, and because of these videos I don't have to waste my precious time. Thx You
@farahsaeed3102
The way you explains a dismissive avoidant is 💯
@MrKelso85
Mate - MATE - thank you - THIS IS SO OVERWHELMINGLY ACCURATE - and exactly what happened to me! And I’ve been blamed for everything, which, don’t get me wrong definitely Validity in what she’s saying but I DIDNT KNOW! Like you said breadcrumbs left and I was left to just mind read
@RoseCole-qx6rz
Yep! This is so true. Thank you again for your guidance. Our one-on-one session was very helpful! I’m glad I got out of the relationship when I did, because this was already happening, and that’s not the relationship I want to be in.
@creativekingdom24
My life for 16 years which eventually led to divorce. However, kept on attracting avoidant partners. Seems like the pattern never ends. Doing self work and standing for myself. Trying to become a more secure person. Not easy when you are the anxious type! 😅
@franceslynn5537
My 10 year avoidant guy lost the desire for sex. It was upsetting and rejection. Barely hugged or kissed me and when he did it looked like he was forcing himself. Which made me feel horrible
@xdxdxdxd4575
My life exactly. There were signs before marriage, like excuses and shifting always bexause of something, but he still initiated sex. After marriage kisses and sex disappeared completly... We are 6 month newlyweds, and I initiated all the sexes in the last 6 month, and got rejected most of the times. If we did it, it felt like I raped him. I feel scammed, trapped, desperate, unwanted and unattractive. I don't initiate anymore... Rejection hurts me a lot. We didn't have sex already for a month...
@adriennelatimer2491
Thanks!
@catherineshelton5520
Unless the avoidant is in a relationship with a narcissist who is toxic, especially if the person has a hero or savior complex. Not a happy marriage. My ex was married to a narcissist for 25 years until she discarded him. He is a fearful avoidant who leans dismissive, and couldn't handle being involved with a woman who was emotionally available who only wanted to love him and emotionally support him.
@felicitytaylor3764
Gosh you give clued up coaching Hit the nail on the head What happens when anxious attachment fights back with ex avoidant when avoidant has a new GF already and lieing about it
@reflection176
Woh I dodged a bullet
@Anouke79