What I Learned Today Part 2: Mind Talk #Shorts

What I learned part 2
Mind Talk.
How you talk to yourself matters. I sometimes don’t realize just how much bad stuff I say about myself because it flashes so fast across my mind I barely can react to it but it has a lasting impression because I felt terrible from hearing it. If you watched my practicing silence video, that’s a easy way to hear those thoughts much more clearer.
How you talk to yourself matters. I never paid much attention to this because I couldn’t really latch on to the specific bad thoughts probably because they happened so often or too many at a time.
A book I’m reading asked me to imagine if one of my friends had said something like this about themselves; like I’m so lazy, I’m ugly & I’m a worthless no talent fool. I know my first reaction would be to console, to say something like “You’re not lazy, you don’t see what I see, you’re amazing. There’s so many things you do that’s amazing & I admire that.” .
So in that same breath why can’t I talk to myself like this? To imagine this part of my mind that’s saying these horrible things about me or when I make the tiniest mistake or continue a bad behaviour. Instead of piling on & condemning myself with that voice, I simple treat it like my friend saying these things. When it say’s “I’m bad at this.”. I can say “I’m investing the time to get better.”
Or if I mistakenly wake up late & my mind immediately starts saying “You’re lazy, you messed up the whole day. Everything is wrong.” I can breathe in & say, “It’s okay, relax. You’re not lazy, we’re not lazy. We still have the whole day ahead of us, sure things might be out of sync but we can adjust accordingly and we have tomorrow to do better and the day after that and the day after that. We can always improve. It’s okay. Relax.”